How badly do you want to learn the language of love? If that's the case, then learning the "Love Language of Deeds of Service" is crucial. It's not always easy, but we hope these suggestions and examples will help you show your love in a meaningful way. 101 Ways to Demonstrate Love by Acts of Service
We recently bought and read Gary Chapman's The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to a Lasting Relationship. While my husband's major love language is acts of service, I'm mostly a receiver of words of affirmation.
I used to tell him I loved him all the time until we realized we spoke different "love languages." This was insufficient, but after reading the book and taking the accompanying quiz, we learned to speak each other's "love languages."
Seeing my husband's desire for selfless gestures, I recently asked him what form of help he would find most meaningful. Even though most of his answers were rather simple, they clearly revealed a need for him to experience my care and concern.
We hope this list of 101 ideas for acts of service to your partner will be helpful to anyone else who may be facing a similar predicament. These thoughtful gestures, whether for a holiday or just because you want to make your partner happy, will speak volumes about how much you value your relationship.
Get The Answer To The Question, "What Are The 5 Love Languages?"
The Five Love Languages is a book written by Gary Chapman that focuses on how to express your affection for another person in ways that they will truly understand. The Five Love Languages can be summed up as follows:
Doing acts of kindness Appropriate verbal and nonverbal expressions of affection include:
What Exactly Are Examples Of The Acts Of Service Love Language?
Those who speak the Act of Service Love Language experience the greatest feelings of love when others go out of their way to help them. This is not a call to become their slave or for them to shoulder all of your responsibilities; rather, it is an expression of your concern and consideration.
Little pleasures enjoyed on a regular basis can count as acts of service just as much as grander ones. A person's day can be brightened by the smallest gestures.
What's Your "Love Language"?
You and your loved one must first identify your Love Language in order to begin communicating effectively. It's recommended that you take the Love Language Test for this purpose.
Putting Love Into Action: 101 Ways to Help Others is a Great Way to Show Your Love.
There is no greater expression of affection than selflessly helping another person. A little act of kindness, like making someone a cup of tea, knocking something off their "to-do" list, or even just drawing them a bubble bath, can mean the world. Here are 101 helpful things you may do for your loved ones to express how much you appreciate them.
- Make them a cup of tea or coffee in the morning and serve it to them just how they like it to kick off the day.
- Start working on a do-it-yourself project to cross it off their list.
Prepare a sumptuous supper for them, making sure to include all of their favorite foods.
Send them a thoughtful gesture by bringing in their favorite coffee to the office as a surprise.
Take them to get an oil change, or better yet, do it yourself and offer to pay for the service.
Make a delicious dessert and serve it to them.
Have supper waiting for them at home.
Carry out the task they despise the most.
Include a love note in their lunchbox.
Pack them a lunch to eat at the office.
Give them a tasty goodie as a complete surprise.
Get them a custom gift basket and let them pick the movie to watch together.
Provide them some uninterrupted time to engage in their preferred activity, be it playing a video game, watching a sports event, etc.
Offer them a soothing massage.
To impress them, run a warm bath and light some lavender candles.
Restore the car's showroom condition by giving it a full inside and out detail.
Once they dry off from their shower, be sure to provide them with a warm towel.
Prepare to offer to clean the litter box for the cat.
Do something that needs to be done, like picking up their dry cleaning, so that they don't have to.
Remove the rubbish from inside the house.
See a museum or special exhibit they've been meaning to check out for.
Fold all the socks in their drawer.
Get them a little something you know they'll enjoy but probably wouldn't get for yourself.
Polish their shoes.
Bathe and groom their animal companion for them.
Always hold the door open for someone else.
Get them out of the car right in front of the entrance, and then go park.
Do what they've asked you to do without being reminded again.
If they are the ones who typically put the children to bed, they should do so now.
Get them a case of their favorite beer or a few bottles of their go-to wine as present.
Let them do whatever they choose with no complaints by giving them the night off.
Make progress on the long-awaited DIY home improvement project, like new shelving or a tile backsplash.
Spend the night in a hotel with them to help them relax and unwind in the midst of the busy week.
Provide them with a fresh set of shoe insoles.
Get their medication refills for them.
Turn the tables and dial the person they've been putting off calling.
Give them a pleasant surprise by taking them out to lunch on the job as a couple.
If they've forgotten something, like starting supper, do it and don't make a big deal out of it.
Request something from them to be picked up for you on the way home.
If they are always the ones to watch the kids, give them a break and let them have some time off.
If they have to stay late at the office, feed them.
Throw them off guard with a batch of homemade cupcakes.
Get out the iron and give them a fresh look.
While they are out in the yard, bring them a cold glass of water or some refreshing lemonade to refresh themselves.
Clean their computer screen with a damp towel.
Plan a date night when you'll be the designated driver so they can relax and have a few drinks in the house.
The number 50 question to ask is, "What can I do to brighten your day?"
Light bulbs should be replaced immediately if they are burned out.
Allow them to use the garage as their parking spot.
Go on a date where you both gaze at the stars from their backyard.
Throw them a bonfire party and serve s'mores as a surprise.
Place heartfelt letters in plain sight.
To show your appreciation, frame a meaningful phrase for them.
Give them a card even if there is no need to.
Make it a habit to regularly clean their go-to java mug.
Get a print of their most treasured photo, get it framed, and display it prominently so they may enjoy it every day.
Make a romantic date for them that features all of their favorite activities.
Scratch-off lottery tickets are a thoughtful and entertaining present.
Care for the jumble of wires behind their workstation.
Get them a gift card to their go-to retailer.
You should always offer to clear the snow from their driveway.
Make them a custom CD or playlist of their favorite songs.
Concoct a creative scavenger quest for them to complete.
Do a little desk massage for them.
Please supply the workplace with snacks.
Even if it's not your cup of tea, offer to spend time with their pals.
Wash the dishes.
Explore novel approaches to meeting their needs.
Treat them to a day at a spa.
Get them a new set of iPod headphones.
Deliver breakfast in bed for them.
Make a delicious breakfast, even if you have to eat it in the kitchen instead of bed.
Create some freshly squeezed orange juice for them, please.
Offer to help prepare the meal by acting as the host's "sous chef."
Take care of the dreaded chore of bill paying.
Attend their preferred concert (while using earplugs, of course) as a show of support.
Invite your friends over and pretend to be a bartender.
Blend them up a nutritious smoothie.
Do a pedicure on them.
A simple gesture of putting down the toilet seat after use can go a long way.
Make a coupon book full of services and favors you're willing to provide.
If you really care for someone, you should give them a striptease as a romantic gesture.
If they fail to charge their phone, do it for them.
Always offer to help, whether it's retrieving their coat or purse or bringing them a cup they left in another room.
Whether it's a new language, how to use a tablesaw, or anything else you believe they'd find useful, learn it and teach it to them.
Subscribe them to a publication you know they'll enjoy.
Treat them to a relaxing scalp massage or a hair washing experience.
Pick up the slack on a task they've been avoiding.
Let them sleep in on the weekends, especially.
Conduct all the planning and homework for an approaching trip, keeping their interests and needs in mind.
Hire a maid for the day so they can relax and not worry about cleaning.
Try to get their counsel and then take it to heart.
Always keep an eye out for ways you can lend a hand, no matter how tiny.
Say "thank you" one hundred times a day for all the help they've given you.
If you really want to show how much you care, write a blog post listing 101 ways to help other people.
